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the_tim_world From: the_tim_world Date: October 20th, 2007 01:05 am (UTC) (Link)
He going to want he wants. My mom is the same way, it drives us nuts!

And I know what it's like when someone is dating/married to a person you love/know, and all you feel is a chill from the person. I HATE it.
araestel From: araestel Date: October 20th, 2007 04:20 am (UTC) (Link)
Dad and I have never been close, but I always felt I knew I could depend on certain things. Now, I'm not sure of anything.
the_tim_world From: the_tim_world Date: October 20th, 2007 04:25 am (UTC) (Link)
*hugs*

I'm certain of you. :)
araestel From: araestel Date: October 20th, 2007 04:36 am (UTC) (Link)
*hugs back* You're very sweet. This is all too much too soon and I'm not on an even keel to begin with.
the_tim_world From: the_tim_world Date: October 20th, 2007 04:41 am (UTC) (Link)
What's to soon? Your dad moving in with that Reba chick?
araestel From: araestel Date: October 21st, 2007 02:45 am (UTC) (Link)
Mom just died in June and here he is--talking marriage since the 10th of last month! ALL too soon. GAH!
the_tim_world From: the_tim_world Date: October 21st, 2007 06:52 pm (UTC) (Link)
I didn;t know about your mom, I'm sorry. That is to soon, if my mom died, and dad wanted to marry that fast too, I'll be a little 'ugh' too.
araestel From: araestel Date: October 21st, 2007 07:09 pm (UTC) (Link)
Yeah, I figured you didn't know 'cause you're one of my new and shiny friends. ;)

Dad just turned 82. And his wife of 56 years just died. So for him to allow this new woman in his house one week after mom's passing and talking re-marriage that soon after her passing, is just making sick. The whole thing is a nasty mess and I never expected to have to deal with this. Not at his age. And I'm betting they get married in December, cause that'll be 6 months. But after him getting sick and them not telling her anything, it may be sooner. He's gone back and forth at least 10 times now on whether or not to keep the house or move into the nursing home. Right now, we're back on keeping the house and her doing whateverthefuck she wants to do to it. I've been told to get all my stuff out too. It's just a huge-ass stupid mess and I'm in no emotional or physical state to deal with any of it.

I want a life do-over.
the_tim_world From: the_tim_world Date: October 23rd, 2007 11:52 pm (UTC) (Link)
Holy crap! I say you just step out of the whole soution, and only step in when it has to do with your dad's health. Parents won't be controlled by their kids.

Like I keep telling my mom "There's no do-overs in life. You work with what you got. Maybe if your lucky, you'll come back as an animal."
araestel From: araestel Date: October 28th, 2007 02:52 am (UTC) (Link)
AMEN!!! I wanna come back as a small lap dog with a nice clean house, a nice mommy and lots of toys. ;)

I'm in a sticky situation with trying to get disability and my parents have been supporting me by paying my rent while I keep re-applying and appealing. So I have to tread softly, especially now with his new "girlfriend". I'm trying to be the good daughter and call him every day, but other than that, I'm trying to distance myself from the whole fucking mess. I have enough shit in my life without asking for more. You know?
the_tim_world From: the_tim_world Date: October 28th, 2007 06:15 am (UTC) (Link)
HAHA! Same.

You think she'll do something to stop him from paying rent? If she does that, little miss better back off. ;)

Oh, I know. I just applied for disability too, and my parents pretty much let me live with them rent free, but I help keep the house going.

Just do what your doing by calling him, and checking up. At least it let's him know your around.

*hugs*
araestel From: araestel Date: October 28th, 2007 06:28 am (UTC) (Link)
I dunno how all this will affect me. Dad and I have never been what you;d call "close". I kinda get the feeling that he wants to wash his hands of me. But then he's hard to read. I just feel very strange there now and I know part of it is my issue with his GF.

Good luck with your claim. I'm so sick of this government shit I could spit. Trust me--it takes YEARS to get anything out of them now. I'm so pissed at all those fuckers right now.... No mere words could explain all the shit I've gone through and for how long. It's total and complete SHIT. SO I hope you have a much easier time. *hugs*

And ahhhhhhhh to lead a dog's life! ;)
the_tim_world From: the_tim_world Date: October 28th, 2007 06:35 am (UTC) (Link)
I don't see him washing his hands of you. It won't be fair for both of you. I say just try your best with her. When your on the phone with your dad, and she's there say "Tell Gigi(?) I said hi." Stuff like that. I do that with my brother's girlfriend. Who makes it really hard to like her sometimes.

My mom got her's in a year. And with the meds, and hospitail stays I had I don't see why they won't give me it. But I heard how hard it is for some. If I don't get this, mom told me I have to get a job. And that scares the crap out of me because I tend to get really sick under stress.

Bark!
araestel From: araestel Date: October 28th, 2007 05:19 pm (UTC) (Link)
I do tell him to tell her hi for me and I try to stay light and positive. But inside, it's just making me sick. I try to cut him some slack because I know he's lonely *and* I now know that he and Reba dated when they were younger. And the reason I feel the way I do about him washing his hands of me, is he's told me to clear out all my stuff and that everything in the house is going except for his chair and a couple of pictures--so nothing I wanted, I can get. I can't afford storage and I don't have the room for it. So once again, I've got nothing. There's nothing about this situation and my life that brings me any peace or happiness. And I'm damn sick of being stressed.

My first attorney's secretary had a grandchild who had to be fed through a tube and was confined to a wheelchair. He was in the hospital on a fairly regular basis and social security denied him 4 times. SO frankly, I think the soc sec people are full of shit. I'm of the opinion now it just depends on the judge when you get to an appeal. I surely hope your experience is better! *hugs* Please keep me updated on your progress.
the_tim_world From: the_tim_world Date: October 28th, 2007 07:41 pm (UTC) (Link)
*hugs you till you puke*

....ok I think I'm screwed. Eck.

I will.
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